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Marriage

Cruciform Love

Rankin Wilbourne

It’s one of the things we are most afraid might happen to us. We go to great lengths to avoid it. And yet we do it all the same: We marry the wrong person. … In a wiser, more self-aware society than our own, a standard question on any early dinner date would be: "And how are you crazy?"

So begins an article by Alain de Botton entitled “Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person”, The New York Times’ most read article of 2016. De Botton insists that we in the modern world are saddled with an unrealistic “romantic view” of love which fails to see that “every human will frustrate, anger, annoy, madden and disappoint us — and we will (without any malice) do the same to them.”

Rankin Wilbourne uses this article as a launch pad for a searing exploration of 1 Corinthians 13, the Bible’s greatest hymn to love. Often heard at weddings and wrapped in the trappings of "romantic love", Wilbourne insists that Paul's words are a schooling in love intent on showing us how little we understand the greatest of all virtues, but also helping us to see the cross-shaped love of Jesus as the truest and most realistic measure of real love.